I like to think that I’m artfully bummy. I know how to be stylish though. “When she does it, she does it right,” someone said. I do care what I look like.
But people think that their opinion of their own looks is objective. I’m pretty, or I’m handsome, they say. Just a form of self love, maybe? What else could it be when you say, ‘I’m pretty’ like it’s a statement etched on a library façade? Some of us believe we’re good-looking, and that it’s a cold fact. I’ve always said that it all depends on who’s looking at me. Some days I stand out, other days, I blend in. It’s more important to focus on having personality. (Hehe — this is what all aging, average-looking people say.)
I had to have personality, a sense of humor, to have taken some of the comments that I’ve gotten. At this age when a man stares, I think he just wants to rob me, so I’ll take all the compliments I can get. But I’ve gotten interesting comments throughout the years.
One coworker said that I looked like Pam Grier. Pam Grier was fine. I do not look like no Pam Grier. I know it’s possible for me to look like a woman who has huge tits when I don’t really have any. But — really? This person was on psychedelics, obviously.
I unwittingly jumped in front of a woman in Kentucky Fried Chicken. I got into a confrontation with the woman and her friend — I was young and stupid. Outside, once I had gotten waaaaay down the hill, one yelled, “Crackhead! You ugly bitch!” I wanted to cry but told her that she was a pussy for telling me this standing a block away.
I do have a penchant for the raggedy. To top it off I was skinny with platinum hair, a nose ring, and had ordered corn on the cob and biscuits in a Kentucky Fried Chicken – I never ate their chicken. The bitches thought I was broke. I could see why calling me an ugly crackhead bitch was a convenient insult.
When I wasn’t blonde, my head was shaved. “I love a bald headed girl,” this guy said as I was leaving a club. Yay me! This was a Latin club where the women have mucho hair, so I might say that it was the highest compliment.
Finally my friend’s mother raved about my mother’s beauty. “Her skin’s like peaches and cream and her hair is beautiful, and she’s soooo tall,” she said. “But what about Sandee,” my friend said. “Oh, she’s all right, but her mother…” When I want to pretend that I don’t care about my looks, I just remember this. Ouch!
I don’t know who Pam Grier is. Maybe I’ve been away too long!
Bisous,
Dawn
Currently she’s featured in the series “The L Word” which I’ve never seen, but in the early seventies she was in a lot of blaxploitation films:
http://www.sheknows.com/entertainment/bad-ass-females-gallery/foxy-brown/foxy-brown-2
She’s foxy alright!
Heck yeah. If I looked like that… If only I looked like that…
Looks to me as if you do look like that!
Awwww… Okay so sans titties and height — bahahahaha! She was tall too — wow!
sigh.. we can pretend all we want not to care but we do, always. Right? I keep thinking I’ll out grow it with age.. but it is not meant to be. I have had people tell me I look ‘softer” with longer hair.. what does that mean? And now that it is short– I must look like a hard ass again? What?
I’ve seen your picture.. and you are beautiful. And your personality, well it makes you even brighter( and not because you are average looking)
Audra you are so kind! Thanks for the compliment — I’m going to carry it with me all week! — hahahaha! What you say about out growing caring about our looks — my grandma — 90 is still concerned with what she looks like. I think we’re in trouble!
I love bald girls too. There’s just something about them. They don’t need hair to hide under. Their confidence is just WOW!
Thanks MFE — that’s it — confidence. That says it all. If you have that you can project just about anything you want.
Oh my sis! How can you not be beautiful if we are related?! LMAO!!! I kid. No, wait, I’m serious! Consider yourself Pretty Ugly! I do and I too am Pretty Ugly–most of us are. Sometimes we are Pretty and sometimes we are Ugly. Even the most beautiful people in the world are Pretty Ugly. Its all about the way you choose to present yourself most times. I have seen you look blindly beautiful and there have been times when you have been blindly ugly! LOL!!!! But, I think you should embrace the Pretty more often……..it really works for you and it will give me an excuse to buy some prescription sun glasses.
I hereby cut you off from your ‘inheritance’! Ahaha! Have you had your morning coffee yet? You’re insane you are!
That was quite a compliment you received. Pam Grier was fine. She was still fine when she starred in Jackie Brown.
Yeah well in a couple of hours you’ll see I don’t look like no Pam Grier — ahahahaha!
Well, can you at least say something like “You’re under arrest, sucker!”
The comparison to a mother? Awful. Silly person. You look really attractive in my opinion, except maybe for the photo you just posted;)
Ahahaha! Thanks Elena! I must tell you, I do love that crazy photo of me all warped!
When you get even older, Sandee, you don’t give a shit about what they think…you KNOW the truth! xoxoM
Margarita!! Indeed! It’s one of the perks of getting older!
Sandee is beautiful to me. And not just because she has cake in her sidebar…
Aw thanks Carrie! I appreciate that.
When I was thirteen an old woman once tore a picture of a very young Elvis Presley out of a newspaper, he was about eleven or twelve and she showed it to me and said: you look just like him.
On the other hand everyone now tells me I look my grandfather and he was as ugly as sin.
Personally I am sticking with the old woman and Elvis. It get’s me through the day and it is better to live in illusion then despair.
You make me laugh J.D.! Here here! I choose illusion!
I think you have a gorgeous face, Sandee, and you would look good bald OR with hair. Bitch. ;D
Oh shit! I almost choked — ahahahaha! I ain’t that damn good-looking — I tell ya what! And, thank you MW! I appreciate that you appreciate what I look like 🙂
It’s beautiful that you don’t know just how beautiful you are. It’s good to be humble, sometimes waiting for other to tell what is easy to see… Sandee, you’re beautiful inside and out, 🙂
Oh Shauna — you are too kind! Thank you! We talked today about the benefit of getting older — and that is that we don’t care anymore — ahahaha! Okay, maybe just a little…
I think you’re lovely just the way you are (cue cheesy 70s keyboards).
I’ll take the cheesy 70s keyboard music. I love 70s cheesy keyboard music!
Sandee,
You’re seriously a beautiful woman. So there.
Stacie
Aw Stacie I’m blushing! Thank you thank you! Like I say, ‘It all depends on who’s looking at me.’ — I’m glad you’re looking at me — haha!
Girl, you got it goin on. Just sayin.
My head is growing bigger!
You’re too funny. And every time I come to visit, I get hungry!
I know right! If I’m not talking about food those cakes on the side bar will reel you in. Thanks SSG!
yeah, and I don’t have any cake at home 😦
That might be a good thing! I’m actually afraid of keeping cake in here since I’m such a cake monster.
yeah. The sad story is that I can’t keep cake at home cause I’d eat it all in one sitting. Ask all those nutella jars…
Nutella huh? Must try it — I here it’s good. It seems like something you could open by the refrigerator and just stand there spoon by spoon until you eat the whole jar. I hear you!
Exactly. And you don’t even have to refrigerate it. Or at least not at the pace I eat it 😀
Well, at least you get to keep your figure so eat away!
hahahaha
Yes and no. I was. I could eat like a horse. Now, I’m three sizes up after my big surgery and we don’t know what the hell is going on. I’m fully back into training and teaching so it doesn’t make any sense. I guess I should get my blood work done instead of carrying the damn paper in my bag for more than a week now
I do the same thing with requests that my doctor gives me for x-rays, blood work etc. — I carry them around a bit before actually making the appointment. I know your metabolism generally slows down when you’re in your forties. I know that’s what I experienced. Maybe that could be it in your case too? I hope it’s something like that at least. At least you’re checking it out…