Wouldn’t it be great if I could maintain the idea that my success should be defined by the quality of my relationships with people? It would be cool if I could make my goal everyday to be of service to people simply in my attitude or otherwise. If I appreciate that work is a place where my success can be demonstrated in how improved my relationships with my coworkers are, then I can be more easily satisfied with my life.
I feel satisfied when I offer my help without any expectations or think of work as a place where I can be of service to people, leaving my ego out of it. It’s an accomplishment to figure out a way to get along with difficult people. A difficult relationship can be a challenge that helps me. I try to understand where these people might be coming from. I also examine myself truthfully, to handle negative feelings I have about them. I stay humble and try not to be so easily offended. I don’t walk around beatifically, but I want to give off energy that makes me approachable. Sometimes it’s not like that though. I don’t want to talk too much about this because I fall short, as it should be — that’s where the lessons are. I’m not a guru. Life sucks a lot of the time and I am not a Pollyanna.
A woman at my job had a hiatus. When she came back she said she had been thinking about me. She said that I helped her see things in a positive light. She gave me a gift. Actually she gave me two gifts, one was a physical gift along with a card and a special note to me, the other was the gift of love and appreciation. Another example of this type of success I experienced after a job assignment that I had was over. The office manager there said that she would miss my smile. She said I was a class act. I realized that I succeeded in what I was trying to accomplish, that what I had hoped to transmit was actually received.