Wouldn’t it be great if I could maintain the idea that my success should be defined by the quality of my relationships with people? It would be cool if I could make my goal everyday to be of service to people simply in my attitude or otherwise. If I appreciate that work is a place where my success can be demonstrated in how improved my relationships with my coworkers are, then I can be more easily satisfied with my life.
I feel satisfied when I offer my help without any expectations or think of work as a place where I can be of service to people, leaving my ego out of it. It’s an accomplishment to figure out a way to get along with difficult people. A difficult relationship can be a challenge that helps me. I try to understand where these people might be coming from. I also examine myself truthfully, to handle negative feelings I have about them. I stay humble and try not to be so easily offended. I don’t walk around beatifically, but I want to give off energy that makes me approachable. Sometimes it’s not like that though. I don’t want to talk too much about this because I fall short, as it should be — that’s where the lessons are. I’m not a guru. Life sucks a lot of the time and I am not a Pollyanna.
A woman at my job had a hiatus. When she came back she said she had been thinking about me. She said that I helped her see things in a positive light. She gave me a gift. Actually she gave me two gifts, one was a physical gift along with a card and a special note to me, the other was the gift of love and appreciation. Another example of this type of success I experienced after a job assignment that I had was over. The office manager there said that she would miss my smile. She said I was a class act. I realized that I succeeded in what I was trying to accomplish, that what I had hoped to transmit was actually received.
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You’ve humbled me very much with this post. It’s the work relationships that I need to work on the most. I mean, we do spend a third of our life with these people, if not more. Thank you for being inspirational. 😉
Ohhh, thanks Jon! I’m glad you were able to glean something from this. I was scared it might be to self-helpy corny preachy.
TOTALLY NO self-helpy OR CORNY preachy.
Instead, awesomely inspirational 🙂 You rock Sandee!!!!
Thanks Tham! I like when people say I rock! So I do have an ego! But I do appreciate the feedback very much. It helps.
lovely and kind..
Thanks UBS — I appreciate you saying that.
Great post SCB, just great!!! And though you are no guru like you said, you still try to live consciously and that is great, i really like this post
Thanks! I will continue to try doing so — it can be rewarding in a world where most of us are looking for material success or a pat on the back for our egos. Success is more accessible this way.
you are so pretty, especially your smile 😉
Oh Carla — I’m so blushing! Thank you — you’ve given me a good start to the day!
I meant it, there is something about your smile that shows that there is a positive energy in you. Despite your death metal and all that, you very much have life!
I meant it, there is something about your smile that shows that there is a positive energy in you. Despite your death metal and all that, you very much have life!
I like that Carla. I think you can have both in you at the same time. As long as you continue to try to treat people with compassion, love and understanding — as much as you possibly can, that is.
That’s a great way to look at things, Sandee, offer the best you have for the pure pleasure of doing just that, with no expectations. Any acknowledgement is the icing on the cake! I hope you like icing! xoM
Thanks Margarita! The trick as I mentioned, is maintaining that approach — I suppose I should try to find a ‘guru’ to help me stay on that track. It’s hard to deprogram yourself from these notions we have about success that surround us at every turn.
You ARE your guru. It’s about following inner guidance, and that takes practice. And practice means some days it’s easier than others, you just keep going. Nice going! xoM
I really appreciate the vote of confidence — it’s hard out there with people who judge you based on titles and material accomplishments.
Great post and the picture is so pretty and peaceful. I feel like I can see your soul peeking out and saying hello. 🙂
Oh Really — that’s great — you know it’s hard to see yourself in photos, or otherwise sometimes. Thanks so much FOW!
You have such a nice smile 🙂
Oh I’ll be floating on air with such nice words Miss Four Eyes — thank you!
What a great post, SCB!! It is a fine line — trying to be kind, gentle but there are just some people that push your buttons! But we’re all human. I can see why people respond to your smile btw. Loved this. Wonderful!
Thank you Brigitte! Yeah there are people who push your buttons. I try operating with a ‘restraint of pen and tongue’ position with them whenever I’m feeling more evolved. I think of it as dealing with a child who’s behaving badly — like I behave badly at times. Thanks for the compliment — a girl could use a pat on the back here and there!
You earned the best gifts of all just by being you. That has to tell you something about what a great person you are. Keep up the good work, Sandor! (Oh, c’mon, if makng people feel better isn’t a superpower, then I don’t know what is.)
I wish I could be humble enough to accept that on a daily basis. On really bad days I want a crown, sceptor and throne, and for the heavens to open up and give me my entitlements 🙂
Yeah, I’ve been wishing for millions of dollars to just fall into my lap for years. Sadly, the gods have not been listening too closely.
You’d like nice in a crown, though.
Thanks PM! I bought my sister a tiara. I really wanted it for myself!
great post – each and every day is the start of the beginning, not the end of the start – take it, live it, love it, own it! enjoyed my read today, be blessed!
Thank you so much for your kind words — I appreciate it!
look at you, hot mama!!
I love this post. its really happy.
how blessed are we? 🙂
We sure are Evelyn — thank you thank you!
One hell of a post! Absolutely marvelous (do people still use that word?).
How rewarding that must’ve been for you. Rock on!
(also, I missed reading your posts)
Thanks SSG! I just hope you’re doing okay. Glad you’re checking me out! Take it easy.
How lovely.
Many years ago, after exchanging harsh words with someone in my personal life, it occurred to me that, no matter how frustrated I was with a coworker or employee, I would have never spoken to them like that, because it would be completely unprofessional. And if I could control my irritation with a coworker for the sake of professionalism, surely I should be able to exercise as much patience and restraint in my conduct with some one I loved. It really made a world of difference in the strength and kindness of my personal relationships.
Thanks Eva! I appreciate you sharing that story, it helps to convince me that being this way makes so much more sense.