Everyday is brand new where anything is possible, right?

Published July 17, 2012 by Sandee

Wouldn’t it be great if I could maintain the idea that my success should be defined by the quality of my relationships with people?  It would be cool if I could make my goal everyday to be of service to people simply in my attitude or otherwise.  If I appreciate that work is a place where my success can be demonstrated in how improved my relationships with my coworkers are, then I can be more easily satisfied with my life.

I feel satisfied when I offer my help without any expectations or think of work as a place where I can be of service to people, leaving my ego out of it. It’s an accomplishment to figure out a way to get along with difficult people.  A difficult relationship can be a challenge that helps me.  I try to understand where these people might be coming from. I also examine myself truthfully, to handle negative feelings I have about them.  I stay humble and try not to be so easily offended.  I don’t walk around beatifically, but I want to give off energy that makes me approachable. Sometimes it’s not like that though.  I don’t want to talk too much about this because I fall short, as it should be — that’s where the lessons are.  I’m not a guru.  Life sucks a lot of the time and I am not a Pollyanna.

A woman at my job had a hiatus.  When she came back she said she had been thinking about me.  She said that I helped her see things in a positive light.  She gave me a gift.  Actually she gave me two gifts, one was a physical gift along with a card and a special note to me, the other was the gift of love and appreciation.  Another example of this type of success I experienced after a job assignment that I had was over.  The office manager there said that she would miss my smile.  She said I was a class act.  I realized that I succeeded in what I was trying to accomplish, that what I had hoped to transmit was actually received.

35 comments on “Everyday is brand new where anything is possible, right?

  • You’ve humbled me very much with this post. It’s the work relationships that I need to work on the most. I mean, we do spend a third of our life with these people, if not more. Thank you for being inspirational. 😉

  • That’s a great way to look at things, Sandee, offer the best you have for the pure pleasure of doing just that, with no expectations. Any acknowledgement is the icing on the cake! I hope you like icing! xoM

  • Great post and the picture is so pretty and peaceful. I feel like I can see your soul peeking out and saying hello. 🙂

  • What a great post, SCB!! It is a fine line — trying to be kind, gentle but there are just some people that push your buttons! But we’re all human. I can see why people respond to your smile btw. Loved this. Wonderful!

    • Thank you Brigitte! Yeah there are people who push your buttons. I try operating with a ‘restraint of pen and tongue’ position with them whenever I’m feeling more evolved. I think of it as dealing with a child who’s behaving badly — like I behave badly at times. Thanks for the compliment — a girl could use a pat on the back here and there!

  • You earned the best gifts of all just by being you. That has to tell you something about what a great person you are. Keep up the good work, Sandor! (Oh, c’mon, if makng people feel better isn’t a superpower, then I don’t know what is.)

  • How lovely.

    Many years ago, after exchanging harsh words with someone in my personal life, it occurred to me that, no matter how frustrated I was with a coworker or employee, I would have never spoken to them like that, because it would be completely unprofessional. And if I could control my irritation with a coworker for the sake of professionalism, surely I should be able to exercise as much patience and restraint in my conduct with some one I loved. It really made a world of difference in the strength and kindness of my personal relationships.

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